please, help me...

[RuthEGP]

I became the girlfriend of my best friend, and the he broke up with me... , ok, that's no the problem... I really hated him because what he did..., and since that happened, we still don't talk to each other... he broke up with me, and i don't want to chase him and beg him for his sympathy...
ok, i don't know what to do... should I talk to him?... or should I keep my chin up?
It's been more than 2 months since he broke up with me...

[nenevhng]

It's always complicated when best friends get in to a romantic relationship,cause usually the result is very good or very bad,there's no middle term in most cases.
You say you want him back,but i don't know if as a boyfriend or as just a friend.If you want him back as friend i guess you should talk to him and say that,i'm sure he will understand,and admit some mistakes;but if you want him back as boyfriend mmmmmm i guess you should be tough and keep your chin up like you said,cause aparently he did something bad to you,off course unless you love him really bad and want to forgive him,go ahead and call him,and explain that.
Sorry i know this doesn't help much,but it is all i can say.
I wish you luck.

[neltado]

did he say why he broke up with you? my first step would be finding out why he did what he did.

[Leesa]

I agree with Merilen. You gotta find out why the relationship ended in the first place, then I would just talk about the friendship you and him have and how much it means to you, where you wanna go in the future with your friendship etc. etc. Cliche and boring but it may just work!

Good luck with it all, dear!! <3

[Vicious]

I'm the kind of guy who doesn't believe in the "ow let's stay friends" thing after you broke up. I agree you should find out what the reason was for his breaking up. But when you find a new love, and he has to live with the "best friend who was also an ex-boyfriend" thing, it might be tough to cope with for him. I know I would find it hard if my girlfriend had a best friend like that. It probably depends on how jealous you are huh

So anyway, if you found out why he dropped you, I wouldn't bother to try and be best friends again. After two months he still thinks it's not necessary to talk to you, so then the doesn't deserve your friendship. Just my two cents

[nenevhng]

Jurassic 5 ft. Nelly Furtado - Thin Line

This song has a lot to say about this matter.

[RuthEGP]

Thanks everyone!... He say a lot of stupid things to me when he decided to broke up... He say he broke up with me mostly because he doesn't love me anymore... he say "the feeling is changing, and now you're just like a friend to me, I don't feel anything anymore..." I almost cried then... then I asked "why" because I really didn't do anything bad... really, and he just say that we are not meant to be togheter, and that we are the same person in a different sex, we are the same an we shouldn't be togheter, because of that... but he still wants to be my friend, because he say that i'm his best friend, and he don't want to lose me... but now it's late...
And I don't miss him as a friend... I really loved him, I had 2 boyfriends before him, and they never made me feel like he did... and 2 months later... i'm still crying because of him... I don't know what to do, because I tried to talk to him last week, and he rejected me again, and he said that he don't want to be my boyfriend again... and that was like a slap in the face. The worst thing is that i'm not a girl who is behind his boyfriend all the time... i let him be the time he want an i let him do whatever he wants, and the another 2 boyfriends before him use to say to me that i was the girl of their dreams because of that... and he never even say thank u for your consideration...
AHH, he said something that really bothered me... he say that I'm obsessive about the school and in fight about people that I care about... I don't see anything bad about that, I like to get good grades and have a good summer break, without studying all the time, and I like to step up for my friends... do you see something bad in those things?
... He just broke up, because he doesn't feel the same anymore... the life is unfair... it's that a good reason to broke up... (yes, it is)... i just don't know what to do..
I already stopped talking to him, and he don't seem to care, he's so proud, and he didm't apologize to me once, because her eally hurt my fellings...
Anyway, What should I do? I still love him, I now, because it's been 2 months, i'm still crying and wishing... and yes, i want him as a boyfriend again... because i don't miss him as a friend... I think that when I was his friend I was his terapeut...
I'll stop writting for now...

[neltado]

if i were you, I would try to stop thinking about him and I would stop trying to want to be with him again. why want to be with someone who would only hurt you? your priority should be you, and your well-being, and he obviously isn't good for you. you can do better. once you meet someone else you won't understand what you were thinking before

[RuthEGP]

Yes... I should stop thinking about him... so, I must understand this like this "he WAS my best friend", I don't have any hopes ANYMORE, i received a lot of slaps in the face... my heart is broken, and I have to deal with that... you know, the crystal when is broken is beautiful too... so as the heart.
Ok. It was my first love, it WAS my best friend... damn past tense.
Ok... I will keep my chin up. I won't be her friend again because I don't think that he deserves my frienship after all the damage he caused to me, and mostly because it what he wants, and I won't give him what he wants anymore, Am I right OR NOT?
I'll be all right after another couple of months, i think. I'm a f**king teenager after all.

[neltado]

don't be so hard on yourself. things like this happen all the time. people change and there's nothing anyone can do. no hope? if that wasn't meant to be then you need to look forward to what IS meant to be.